86. Decide To Be Successful: Four Beliefs To Break For Unlimited Growth

What if you just decided it was already done?

That one shift - from "will this work?" to "it's done, now I act" - changes everything. You stop second-guessing and start moving like someone who's already there. It's not fake confidence. It's just knowing you're worthy right now, not once you've proved something.

But most of us hit these four walls:

- feeling like we're not good enough

- worrying we'll betray people by changing

- thinking success will crush us, or

- feeling guilty about doing better than others

They all sound reasonable, but really they're just keeping you comfortable.

You don't beat these by arguing with yourself. You make them irrelevant by doing things differently. Ship the work before it's perfect. Tell people where you're headed. Build success that feels light, not heavy. Find people who get excited when you win.

We dive deeper in the podcast, and offer up a daily practice for you to incorporate into your non-negotiable habits.

Decide and it is done.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Decide It’s Already Done
• 2:47 Grounded In Innate Worth
• 4:18 Acting From Finished Energy
• 6:24 The Four Upper-Limit Beliefs
• 9:29 Flawed Or Unworthy

Transcript

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Know and notice that we're all machines, we can all be reprogrammed, we can all be coded, and actually decide that you're already successful and decide to take the action and decide to do the thing is such a big part of how you navigate life and learnings. I am excited to bring this on to you because this is kind of happening in real time on a truly deeper level than I've ever known before. So this episode is going to take you on a wild ride when you decide to be successful. Now I want to just caveat that with the feeling that you are already successful, you are born successful, you are safe in your success, you are whole in your success, and you are loved in your success, whatever that success is. So when you remember that and you're really in that space of okay, I've got this, I feel grounded, I feel safe, I feel whole. Where do I go next? What is the next piece around this? Where do I actually take this next level and allow myself to feel into deciding about unlimited success, about success in all areas of my life, about success that allows me to deeply feel rich, fulfilled, and blissful in everything that is possible, and so so much more. And there are real elements of expansion here, there are real elements of stretching here, and there are real elements of backing yourself. What's happened for me like never before is I am backing myself, I am backing myself with a certainty and a conviction and a knowing like never ever before. So when you do that and allow yourself to back yourself, and you just decide it's already done. So the energy of any decision is completely different. You're it's already done. You act and be from that place of already do it's already done. And so what happens is your energy moves from, oh my goodness, will it work out? Will it this, will it that, will it, will it be the other, to I'm taking the actions because it's already done. You're already in a completely different energetic um aspect of your way of being. So I want to talk about the four beliefs that stop people making this decision. What are the four unconscious beliefs that Gay Hendricks talks about in his book, The Big Leap, that really people dance around between and show up in different aspects of those beliefs until they obliterate them and reframe them and empower themselves to know and notice that we're all machines, we can all be reprogrammed, we can all be coded, and actually decide that you're already successful and decide to take the action and decide to do the thing is such a big part of how you navigate life and learnings. So this is from Gay Hendrick's book, The Big Leap. If you haven't read it, it is phenomenal. It's the book that I tell everybody to read when they first start working with me. You'll bring it to their awareness. And it's why the company's called I Dare to Leap. There's definitely this piece that I think holds people back, and it's sneaky, it pops up lots and lots of times until you're fully aware of it, bring it into your awareness, and then you're like, okay, this is it, I'm ready now. So the first success belief sabotage that he talks about is feeling flawed or unworthy of success. So feeling flawed or unworthy of success. So this is the not good enough thread that lots of people have that I have been through myself. This is strong for people, and the culture act really is that we are all born worthy. We're all born worthy. There are experiences that happen to us that challenge that. But when you can know, let you know, let you know that you are worthy of all you desire and allow that to land in your mind, in your body, in your energy, then that one you can work through multiple times as it shows up in multiple areas of your life, and know that it's you're already worthy of success. That's the first one. So if that resonates, tune in for that being one of the aspects to work through for yourself. The next one he talks about is feeling disloyal or abandoned. So if you feel like your success is that you're being disloyal or you're abandoning people, then there's a subconscious belief that actually if you get successful or become more successful, you're gonna either abandon yourself or you're gonna abandon other people, you're gonna be disloyal. And if one of your values is loyalty, this one is gonna kick hard. This one is gonna be like a real gut punch. And I talk from personal experience, I've been through all of these, but this is one that can feel really strong, and you're like, whoa, especially when things are happening, and you're like, wow, I just I didn't see that coming. This one kind of comes in in a bit of a curved ball kind of way, where there's people that you come across in your life, and I would always say they come in for a seasoned reason or a lifetime, but there's something that happens, and their loyalty is a piece like that you question, and this is when this comes in and it knocks your decision to be successful, and it plays into um the fear of the success. The third one that he talks about is fear of burdens of success. So there's an element that you believe that the responsibility of success is gonna be a real burden, or the decisions that you have to make when you're successful is gonna be a real burden that holds you back, or elements like that. So the fear of the burdens of success is that people are fearful of success in that they feel it's gonna weigh them down. So they don't see success as a lighter option, they don't see it as a brighter option, they see it as way more responsibility, it's gonna feel heavy, it's gonna feel mild, it's gonna feel tough, and it's it's much better to stay where they are. And then the fourth one that he talks about is fear of overtaking others. So fear of surpassing others. So this is where the whole judgment comes in, this is where all of the other aspects come in, and this fear of surpassing others is a real big fear for people, it's something that's really potent for people. There's a real element of understanding that actually to know that you are exactly on your own journey, everything is working out for you. This is how it's all divinely created, this is part of the plan, and then not overtaking any others at all. Everybody's on their own journey as you are you, you're just on your own path. But there's a real fear of overtaking the others because there's a real fear of um not being liked or loved or being lonely or being judged, and all the extra aspects that come into that, so that people would never want that in the and they have this thread in their subconscious that then I'm not gonna overtake others. So they dim their lights, so they play it small, so they hide their gifts, that kind of thing. That's how that plays out for people. So this episode is for you to listen in, think about those four beliefs that Gay Hedricks talks about. I'll just go through them again. Feeling flawed or unworthy of success, feeling disroyal or abandoned, fear of the burdens of success, and fear of overtaking others. And just tune into yourself and see what comes up, what's happening, where are the spaces and places that it's showing up in your life. How can you work through to move through to not to to having these as a belief that you don't want, to flip with it, to creating an empowering belief to be able to be standing in that strong, in that space of strength of I am successful, and I am in my truth, I trust myself and I love myself, and I am full of hope that everything is working out, and there's an inner certainty and strength like never ever before. Let me know what comes in as you listen to the episode. I would love to know. Send me a message on Instagram at IamSharlotte Carter or via email Charlotte at idare to leap and I will personally get back to you. But let me know what comes up for you. It will be exciting to know. And remember, you are already born worthy. So once that one lands, work through the other four and see what comes up next.